"The government still behaves too much (but ever less) as if all caring is done by women, a self-fulfilling description of the world. That means too many workplaces are still run along macho lines to the disadvantage of women, and men who might like to do more at home. Yet we are muddling, slowly and painfully, towards an accommodation between what we want and what’s possible. Demanding that we turn the clock back to some imagined golden age of domestic bliss is no help at all."